will try and give you a picture of a working mother in Norway by
telling you about my own experiences and how life turned out to
I moved to Luxembourg in 1985 to continue my career in Christiania
Bank Luxembourg. The plan was to stay there for three years. 10
years later, however, I was General Manager in the bank in Luxembourg,
and was responsible for the Trading Department.
I had two lovely boys with my husband, and I felt I was able to
combine the high-flying career in the bank with motherhood pretty
well with good help from my mother- in- law and different au-pair
I was under the regulations of the luxemburgish social security
system, which meant that I could not benefit from any of the Norwegian
allowances mentioned earlier. I managed however to negotiate some
extra time at home with the newborn children, and an agreement that
ensured me the same position when I returned to work after the extended
Introducing a Norwegian lifestyle to the local luxemburgish community
was met with curiosity and astonishment. A society quite different
from the Norwegian one, also in matters that concerned equality
between the sexes.
We norwegians are really in the drivers seat in many aspects
in Norway when it comes to this question. Unfortunately I believe
some of the young people in Norway today take all the advantages
for granted. I am not an expert in the history of the feminist movement
in Norway, but we should be proud and pleased for having such a
welfare system that gives us different choices and alternatives
The birth of my third child, this time a lovely daughter, was the
main reason I took a break from the banking business. The following
two years was a struggle, and a separation from my husband was inevitable.
After a long period of serious consideration, I decided to move
back to Norway.
I chose to go back to my home country because it offered the best
welfare system for single mothers and their children and because
my parents where there to give us all their love and support.